I just started getting a subscription to TIME and although i have about 15 magazines coming every month that i never end up reading cover to cover, i have found myself these last 3 weeks reading all the articles in my weekly news update. Yesterday i opened the mailbox to find the above cover picture. For someone in the wedding industry it's not really what you want to see hitting the cover of a national magazine but i found myself completely agreeing with everything in the article. I found it very timely as last week in the news we were hearing about Governor Mark Stanford and his Argentinean "soul mate". I guess what particularly bothered me as i heard those reports was not only the fact that he had cheated but instead of being remorseful he justified his actions by trying to appeal to our American sense of finding something better and therefore it makes it OK. i also thought it was especially interesting that he always added- "and i'm going to work things out with my wife" well good start buddy because you just told the world your soul mate is someone else. In my opinion he doesn't want to work it out.
The article also talks about Jon & Kate plus 8 just after their announce of divorce. The interesting thing about Americans is that we lie to each other and ourselves when we say that divorce is ok for children. Here is an excerpt from the article.
"Few things hamper a child as much as not having a father at home. "As a feminist, I didn't want to believe it," says Maria Kefalas, a sociologist who studies marriage and family issues and co-authored a seminal book on low-income mothers called
Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage. "Women always tell me, 'I can be a mother and a father to a child,' but it's not true." Growing up without a father has a deep psychological effect on a child. "The mom may not need that man," Kefalas says, "but her children still do."
"America's obsession with high-profile marriage flameouts — the Gosselins and the Sanfords and the Edwardses — reflects a collective ambivalence toward the institution: our wish that we could land ourselves in a lasting union, mixed with our feeling of vindication, or even relief, when a standard bearer for the "traditional family" fails to pull it off. This is ultimately self-defeating. It is time instead to come to terms with both our unrealistic expectations for a happy marriage and our equally unrealistic beliefs about the consequences of walking away from the families we build."
And in the end i think most American's have forgot that marriage is not a string of fun dates, romantic vacations, and perfect happiness that it is as the article states "A lasting marriage is the reward, usually, of hard work and self-sacrifice."
You can read the article
HERE.
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